Meet Tamara Johnson | Author

We had the good fortune of connecting with Tamara Johnson and we’ve shared our conversation below.

Hi Tamara, do you have some perspective or insight you can share with us on the question of when someone should give up versus when they should keep going?

As a stepmom, I am not afraid to admit that being an intentional stepparent can be challenging. This unique journey involves navigating not-so-normal dynamics that may feel uncomfortable. My advice for stepparents who are trying to seek help: pause and take a deep breath! I know that being a stepparent can sometimes feel discouraging, but please remember that your role is incredibly important. A stepmom often plays a crucial role in providing emotional support, guidance, and stability to her stepchildren, helping them to navigate the challenges of blending two families together. Essentially, a stepmom is the source of bravery, incredible strength, understanding, and compassion, making her an invaluable member of the blended family unit.

Take heart in knowing that your efforts, no matter how small they may seem, can shape a brighter future for your stepchild(ren). Every act of kindness, support and understanding matters. It may not always be easy, but your presence, your intention and your dedication are making a difference. Also, be patient with yourself and with the process. Building a blended family takes time and understanding. It is okay to feel overwhelmed at times, but do not let those feelings deter you from continuing to show love and care.
Seek support from your spouse or partner, your friends and or other stepparents/ bonus parents who can truly empathize with your experiences. Share your concerns, celebrate your wins, and remember that you are not alone on this step-parenting journey. More importantly, let go of the need for perfection and allow yourself to enjoy the present moment.

What should our readers know about your business?

After saying “I do” to my husband in July 2013, I began my journey in the world of step-parenting. Juggling the exhausting struggles of being a step-mommy with the pressures of blended family life, I was so ready to step away from it all, including our marriage. However, with the help of personal therapy, marriage counseling, prayer, new founded confidence, and self-care, I discovered the strength to continue in my truth. While healing, Stepmom Goals, LLC was unleashed. Focused on helping other stepmothers in their own escapades, I am determined to help them to adjust their crowns daily.

The content that is published daily on social media is to remind stepmothers and bonus mommies that their self-love is their first love. As a huge advocate of self-care, I encourage stepmoms to release what they cannot control in their blended families. I also am not afraid to expose the harsh truths of stepmom life to the rest of the world. For instance, when someone implies that a stepmom knew exactly what she was getting herself into; that idea is quite insensitive. This undermines the complexity of the stepmom’s role. Being a stepmom is not an easy task. Assuming that she fully knew what she was getting into overlooks the challenges and emotions that often come with blending families.

Additionally, as an author of an affirmation journal and an affirmation e-book for stepmoms, I am hopeful that my writing would help the courageous stepmom who is ready to uncover her truth. Also, with the upcoming release of my new e-book, “Affirmations for the Burnt Out Stepmom” and my children’s book, “Mama T and Me,” I invite readers to the side of stepmom life that no one really sees.

Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
Oh, I am brunch girl! Sitting pretty, eating while sipping on bubbly and fruity mimosas is one of my favorite self-care activities. Therefore, brunch dates would be sprinkled throughout the itinerary, especially at a few of my favorite restaurants in the downtown Detroit area. I love The Block, District Seventy8, Hudson Café and Empire!

Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
To my husband, Reggie, I cannot express enough how grateful I am for your unwavering support and your calmness. Your precious love has made me a better person, and I am forever grateful to have you by my side. You truly accept me for being me, flaws and all. Thank you for being my rock, my cheerleader, and my best friend. Also, I want to thank the stepmom and bonus mom community for rocking with my brand, Stepmom Goals for the past five years! More exciting things to come!

Website: https://stan.store/StepmomGoals

Instagram: @stepmomgoals_

Twitter: @stepmomgoals

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StepmomGoalsLLC/

Image Credits
Images by Tammy J.