Meet Rebecca Kolenda | Self-Published Author & Blogger

We had the good fortune of connecting with Rebecca Kolenda and we’ve shared our conversation below.

Hi Rebecca, let’s start by talking about what inspires you?
I’m deeply inspired by people’s stories. I believe everyone has something unique to share, and when we find the courage to open up about our journeys—whether they’re messy, beautiful, or somewhere in between—it reminds others that they’re not alone. There’s power in our shared humanity, and our stories are a bridge that fosters understanding and hope between us all.

I’m endlessly fascinated by what people go through, what shapes them, and how they find strength even when life feels impossible. Our upbringing, our challenges, our triumphs—they all mold us into who we are. What inspires me most is seeing how resilient people can be. Hearing their stories of adversity, determination, grit, and grace reminds me how important it is to build each other up. Sharing our stories is one of the most powerful ways we can do that, and it’s one of the reasons I chose to write my memoir, ‘Redeemed: Discovering Identity After Trauma.’

The first memoir I ever read was ‘Educated’ by Tara Westover. Her story blew me away—not just because of what she went through, but because of how much I could relate to her emotions. Even though our lives were very different, I understood her struggles with fear, self-doubt, and finding a way forward. It was the kind of connection that stays with you, and I wanted to give my readers that same feeling. I didn’t write my memoir to air out the drama of my past. I wrote it because I wanted to show others that healing is possible. That hope exists even in the messiest and hardest moments.

Recently, my sister-in-law mentioned how surprised she was by parts of my memoir. She’s been a part of my life for almost 20 years, yet there were pieces of my life that I never shared. Her reaction reminded me how often we shield our inner struggles, unintentionally isolating ourselves from those who love us. But when we tell our stories, it expands our reach and opens doors to inspire and touch other people’s lives.

Writing my story wasn’t easy, but it was worth it. I wanted people to know they’re not alone, and that there’s hope and healing even in the hardest seasons. And I think that’s why I keep coming back to storytelling—it’s not just about what I have to say. It’s about the connections we make when we’re brave enough to share.

Storytelling has changed my life. It’s given me the courage to be vulnerable, to say, “Here’s what I’ve been through, and here’s how I’m growing.” This inspiration is also the driving force behind my blog, ‘Thriving Thoughts.’ I remind readers that their stories don’t have to be extraordinary to matter; beauty lies in sharing the everyday moments, the mundane struggles, and the victories we experience along the way. Those stories matter.

One of the most humbling experiences as a writer is hearing readers say how deeply my story resonates with them. Many have shared reviews saying, “I didn’t realize how close to home this was to my own story and healing process” and “’Redeemed’ encouraged me to take some steps toward healing.” Others have commented on how timely the book came into their lives or how the honesty in my story moved them to tears. These responses reaffirm why storytelling matters. Life is full of challenges and hardships, and being able to relate to someone else’s journey can be life-changing.

Let’s talk shop? Tell us more about your career, what can you share with our community?
Becoming a writer was never part of my original plan! My dream had always been to be an elementary school teacher, and for a while, I lived that dream—teaching first grade in a private school. But after seven years in the field and some personal life hardships, my mental health reached a breaking point. I needed to step away and focus on my well-being. That’s when I started writing my memoir. What began as a therapeutic exercise turned into something so much more. Writing helped me process my past, uncover the roots of my mental struggles, and ultimately heal in ways I didn’t know were possible.

What sets my work apart is my authenticity and relatability. I’m not afraid to dig into the messy, uncomfortable parts of life because those are the moments we all share in one way or another. I write with the hope that my stories can resonate with others and remind them that they’re not alone. Hearing from readers who say my book has encouraged or inspired them is something I’m incredibly proud of.

Writing my memoir was anything but easy! Leaving a career I loved was incredibly hard. Teaching had always been my dream, and stepping away felt like I was giving up. But in reality, I was prioritizing something even more important—my own healing.

Writing was a whole new experience for me. Self-publishing was a learning curve, and I didn’t have a huge platform or audience to lean on. I had to be okay with starting small and learning as I went. There were moments of doubt, times when I wondered if anyone would care about my story. But I pushed through because I believed in the power of sharing my testimony.

It took a lot of courage and patience to become an author. Writing a memoir meant confronting parts of my life I had buried for years. It was painful at times, but it was also freeing. I kept reminding myself why I was doing it—because I wanted to connect with others. That purpose kept me moving forward, even when self-doubt crept in.

Having a support system was crucial too. Friends, family, and my faith gave me the encouragement I needed to keep going. And every time I received feedback from a reader who said my story helped them in some way, it reminded me that the hard work was worth it.

The biggest lesson I’ve learned throughout my authoring journey is the importance of taking care of yourself. For so long, I didn’t face the effects of my childhood trauma, and it left me burned out and struggling. Writing my memoir taught me that self-care isn’t selfish—it’s necessary.

I’ve also learned that it’s okay to change paths. Just because you’ve worked toward a goal doesn’t mean you have to stay on that path forever. Life is full of seasons, and it’s okay to pivot when one season ends and another begins.

The most important thing I want people to know is that their stories matter. I’ve lived a life shaped by chronic anxiety, self-doubt, and perfectionism. I know what it feels like to think you’re alone in your struggles. That’s why I share my story—to remind others they’re not alone and to encourage them to take care of themselves.

You don’t have to be famous to make a difference. I never set out to be a bestselling author or a social media influencer. I just wanted to tell my story with the hope that it would encourage even just one person. Our connections with others matter so much more than we often realize.

My journey has taught me that life isn’t about perfection—it’s about progress, perseverance, and finding hope in the hard moments. If sharing my story can help someone see their own worth and start their own healing journey, then it’s all been worth it.

Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
I absolutely love Detroit! Originally from Pittsburgh, I’ve spent the past nine years exploring this incredible city, and it never fails to amaze me.

Royal Oak is a must-visit! This walkable town is full of charm and tons of things to do. Grabbing coffee at Seven Sundays, snagging deals at Paper Trail Books, sipping cocktails at Motor City Gas, and enjoying a delicious meal at Lily’s Seafood Grill are my favorite things to do there!

Grosse Pointe is another favorite town with its homey, inviting atmosphere. A highlight is Flyleaf Bookstore, where vintage library vibes meet a literary-inspired drink menu. For an incredible date night, I love visiting Dirty Dog Jazz Café where live music and great food make for an unforgettable time!

I can’t talk about Detroit without mentioning my two favorite dinner spots: Noori Pocha and Bash. If you’re in the mood for sushi, Bash offers an amazing Japanese dining experience. For something lively and fun, Noori’s Korean vibes, fried chicken, and soju bombs are unbeatable. Both restaurants are must-stops on my Detroit dinner bucket list!

If you’re looking for more downtown vibes, I love strolling Cadillac Square and Campus Martius. Don’t forget to stop by Iggy’s Eggies for an egg-cellent brunch and grab sweet chocolate treats at Bon Bon Bon while you’re there! Other must-sees around Detroit are Belle Isle and the Henry Ford Museum, both special experiences our out-of-town family has loved.

Shoutout is all about shouting out others who you feel deserve additional recognition and exposure. Who would you like to shoutout?
I wouldn’t be where I am today without the unconditional love and support of my husband. He hates when I gush about him, but it’s true—he’s my rock. He’s sacrificed so much to help me chase my dreams and reach my goals. I don’t know what I would do without him! He is my best friend.

I’m also so grateful for my family and friends. Their love and encouragement have anchored me throughout my entire professional journey. Every word I write is backed by the support of the people who believe in me, and for that my heart is full.

I want to sincerely thank everyone who has taken the time to read this interview, my blog, or my memoir. Your interest in my story means so much to me, and I hope you feel encouraged and uplifted because YOU matter!

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